What If I Chose the Wrong Partner… or Life? (ROCD/RA)
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Hi love,
Recently, during one of our HOME group sessions, something tender and powerful surfaced. Not just anxiety. Not just doubt. But the quiet sorrow underneath, the ache that hides behind the question “what if this isn’t the right life or partner?”…
…and, this is grief.
If you live with ROCD/RA, you probably know that ache well. It’s the fear of choosing wrong. Of wasting your one precious life. Of giving up futures you’ll never get back. The lives, versions of yourself, and parallel futures you feel slipping away.
We talk so much about fear in ROCD/RA, but underneath, there’s often grief. Not just about the partner in front of you but, about every path not taken.
One of our Awaken into Love coaches, Kat, once beautifully shared:
“I think part of why ROCD was so painful for me was that it wasn’t just about my partner. It was about all the other lives I was terrified of giving up. The grief of who I might never become.”
Many of us with ROCD/RA feel it deeply: the grief for what was, what could’ve been, and what may never be. And sometimes our minds can’t hold that much loss. So we obsess as a attempt to escape the pain, to avoid it all.
Not because we’re broken but because we feel so much.
The tenderness of life. The passing of time. The shadow of death. The beauty and the tragedy of it all, held with equal intensity. It’s not weakness. It’s sensitivity to the fragile and fleeting nature of being alive.
At Awaken into Love, we hold space for that grief. We name it. We honor it.
Because if it stays buried, that’s when it turns into doubts and ruminations. But when it’s witnessed with compassion, something softens in your heart.
Yes, love.
You’re allowed to grieve the lives you didn’t live, all the choices you didn’t make, the paths you didn’t take (even the exes you left behind) and those past versions of yourself. That grief is real.
It doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful or doing something wrong.
It just means you’re human…
…and, you don’t have to carry this grief alone.
#YANA
The Awaken into Love Team ❤️
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Another perfectly timed post 💛